Mask You Live in – Vancouver – Friday June 26

FILM SCREENING INVITATION – FRIDAY, JUNE 26TH AT 7PM – Dyer Fitness – 3972 Hasting Street, Burnaby, BC

The Mask You Live In follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating society’s narrow definition of masculinity.

Director: Jennifer Siebel Newsom – Miss Representation


Q & A discussion will follow the film screening, facilitated and led by Loren Spagnuolo with the support of a 4-panel group member of experts in their respective fields.

Four panel group member:

Navid Fallah, Support Worker with Street Smarts Leadership Program-
Dr. Lisa Ferrari, R. Psych –
Lana Maree, Somatic Yoga Educator –
One more panel member TBC

SEATED IS LIMITED – your payment is confirmed entry. Payment details:
No cash at door
Adults – $15.00
Youth & Senior – $10.00

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Water Conservation – Take a sailor’s shower!

I’m feeling worried about the lack of rain we’ve had here in Vancouver for the past couple of months. It’s only the middle of June and already there’s no snow to be seen on the mountains from my window .

So I’m on a mission to conserve water – taking a sailor’s shower, collecting the water I use to wash my hands and dishcloths, and anything else I can think of and then re-using this grey water elsewhere. Also – not flushing unless it’s brown (have been doing that for years now) .

Here’s an old post of mine from a couple of years ago

I challenge you to see how much water you can save! Let me know how it goes.


I’ve always loved water – not necessarily to swim in, though I like that too – but for the sheer joy of drinking it. My mother called me her water baby because it was (and still is) my drink of choice. I even remember as a little girl, marveling at our availability of water, pitying those in the desert without such easy access.

So naturally I am concerned about worldwide water shortages and waste.  Today I finally took a sailor’s shower, something I’ve been meaning to do for a few years.

Here’s what I did.

I took a bucket into the shower with me and when I turned on the water I made sure it was positioned underneath the run-off.   I got all wet then turned the water off and soaped up, including shampoo.  I rinsed with the water in the bucket and then once more with clear water…

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Mask You Live in – next screening now may be June 26

Sorry for not being able to be definite about the next possible screening of the Mask You Live In.

The organizer is working on finding a venue and now the proposed date of the screening in Vancouver is Friday June 26.

I will let you know more details when I get them

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Mask you Live In – possible screening again in Vancouver on Friday July 3, 2015

Mask You Live In possible screening if enough interest

It would happen in Vancouver on Friday July 3, 2015

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The Mask You Live In – shown in Vancouver last Friday night

It was gratifying to be part of an audience of more than a hundred committed and concerned people who showed up for last Friday’s screening of The Mask You Live In, a film about the stereotypes of masculinity in our society that denies boys the full range of emotional human expression – and the sad consequences that result by director Jennifer Siebel Newsom.

Cultural messages both direct and subliminal bombard boys from a young age to “man up”, not be a sissy, not cry, not touch each other and more – effectively cutting them off from their emotional side and denying them the full range of human expression so vital to individual and community health.

As our society increasingly divides us along gender lines with images and stereotypes of hyper-masculinity and hyper-femininity, there is less and less room for individual expression of the more than 90% of characteristics that boys and girls are said to share. At the risk of being labeled weak and effeminate, society and then peer groups of boys themselves pressure each other to fit into the “right” stereotype.

And that means being competitive instead of cooperative, being good at physical activities and sports, making lots of money, and having lots of sex without emotional attachment. Furthermore, boys are taught to solve any pain instead of exploring it and quickly learn to conceal or downplay the fact that they’re sad, angry, or scared to avoid being isolated and excluded from their peer group.

Sadly the result is a lot of unhappy boys and men and high rates of substance abuse, violence, and suicide.

More than 25% of boys in the U.S. are bullied in school – a phenomenon that happens early – as early as preschool. One study showed that within 3 months of starting preschool, many children see the members of the opposite sex and the characteristics they express as distasteful and something to avoid in themselves and are already restricting their behaviour to fit the appropriate stereotype.

As boys grow older and become more withdrawn emotionally they are more liable to hit a point where they have so much internal pain yet don’t feel they have anyone they can talk to. At this point, many turn to drugs and alcohol, and in the worst cases, to suicide.

Stats show that by the age of twelve, 34% of boys are drinking and using drugs. A quarter of them are binge drinking to blot out their pain and loneliness. And everyday, more than three boys in the US. kill themselves – a rate that’s even higher among gay youth – and five times the rate of girls.

One of the experts interviewed in the film did say there is some light at the end of the tunnel. More boys are benefitting from men in their lives who show their emotions, hug and care for them, and all in all, give them healthier emotional role models to emulate. But he also said that there is still a long way to go before we are serving our boys’ emotional needs and that too many boys still yearn for guidance and leadership from the men in their lives.

Following the film,  there was a panel discussion led by local experts and others involved with these issues. I will let you know about this in my next post.

This film was a production of the Miss Representation Project – a movement that uses film and media to expose the injustices of gender stereotypes.  It was brought to Unity on Oak Street in Vancouver by Loren Spagnuolo who may host another screening. I’ll keep you posted.


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Minecraft Guide for Parents

I’d like to recommend this book for parents and others taking care of kids interested in Minecaft. Not only does it give a step-by-step description of the basic components of Minecraft but it also tells how to install it and set up a server in your home.

Subititled Down-to-Earth advice for parents of children playing Minecraft, it is written by homeschooling mom, writer, caregiver, and gamer Cori Dusmann from Victoria, it also gives practical help and advice on setting limits and ensuring the computer doesn’t become a source of conflict, avoiding monsters, and keeping kids safe online.

It’s been a big help to me to give me a kick-start in keeping up with my son on this fascinating and creative game as well as adjusting my attitude toward online games, and adding to our arsenal of tips on keeping our kids safe and also grounded in the reality of here and now.

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Mask you live in – Vancouver May 29

The Mask You Live In follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating society’ s narrow definition of masculinity. Directed by  Jennifer Siebel Newsom

Date: Friday, May 29th @ 7pm at Unity of Vancouver – 5840 Oak Street

Q & A discussion will follow the film screening, facilitated and led by Loren Spagnuolo with the support of a 4-panel group member of experts in their respective fields. Group discussion to follow.

Tickets through Eventbrite

Youth & Seniors: $10.00

Adults: $15.00″

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