The Mask you live in – revisited


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Reading some notes I’d taken while watching the Miss Representation Project’s film, The Mask You Live In, a couple of years ago.  This film is about the unrealistic stereotypes we railroad boys into, so that they deny their emotional development and expression – at their peril. And to the detriment of society in general.

This was an immensely sad film for me to watch, but I live in hope.

However, in a nutshell, here are some points I noted.

  1. Increasingly hyper-masculine images, products, etc and hyper-feminine images and products increase the pressure to fit into the “right” stereotype
  2. Boys (and men) feel they need to solve pain instead of exploring it
  3. The “mean-team” among boys  as young as preschool age, is established within months of a cohort starting preschool. Boys not fitting in are in danger of being “fired” from the boys’ club and excluded
  4. A quarter of boys binge drink or do drugs to blot out loneliness; when they’re high they have permission to hug their friends and tell them they love them
  5. Every day, more than 3 boys commit suicide (I didn’t note the age of these boys but I seem to remember them being in the 12-15 year range); this is 5 X the rate of girls

 

And here’s the clincher in my opinion,

“boys yearn for guides and leadership from the men in their lives”

 

 

 

 

 

This entry was posted in Boys, Bravery, bullying, Child-rearing, Community, Emotional literacy, Fathers, Football, Games, Happiness, Men, mental health, Peace, Rites of passage, rituals, Sadness, Sons, Substance abuse, suicide, Teens. Bookmark the permalink.

2 Responses to The Mask you live in – revisited

  1. Brian Powell says:

    are you familiar with David Hatfield?

    https://manologyvancouver.com/

    best Brian

    On Sat, Jul 23, 2016 at 2:44 PM, Raisingaboys Blog wrote:

    > Edgymama posted: “Reading some notes I’d taken while watching the Miss > Representation Project’s film, The Mask You Live In, a couple of years > ago. This film is about the unrealistic stereotypes we railroad boys into, > so that they deny their emotional development and expre” >

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