First of all I’m so grateful and excited to be here – not only contributing to this blog, but also having the privilege to be raising a boy in these times so full of possibility for change. Thank you partner in raising boys for your great idea to start this blog together.
I hope that my voice here will add an interesting compliment to my blogging partner’s. While we share many values as feminists attempting to raise empathetic boys who can express their emotions freely, experience tenderness, and show respect for themselves, girls and women, their communities, and the planet, we also have different experiences of mothering, different challenges, and different takes on what may work best. I hope that both our common ideals, and the colour and contrast in our voices will encourage many others to join in the discussion.
So, why am I here?
I am so lucky to live in a community, where many are choosing to work towards peace on Earth, nurturing compassion and non-violent communication, protection for all life-forms, and reducing the divides that exist between men and women, have and have-nots, free and oppressed, and mass consumption and sustainability.
How we raise our children plays a huge role in this work, and for me, specifically, how we raise our sons…as I am mother to a boy. I believe much of the struggle we face in life today, both locally and globally, stems from such issues as differing communication styles we teach to boys and girls, discouraging boys from feeling empathy, showing vulnerability, encouraging competition, techno-gadgetry lust, immersion in the media onslaught of battle-play, and eroding the role of the family, and potentially the mother, as one of the most important teachers of peace, empathy and unconditional love, through earlier and earlier separation and school entry.
I am a single mother, raising a boy, now six, in a shared custody with a man who has very different values from me. I earn my ‘daily bread’ and experience many of my passions, and much of my learning, providing childcare from my home to children aged 1.5 to 7.
I nurture my understanding of motherhood, parenthood, and how children grow and flourish as members of a community, with ideas of attachment parenting, alternatives to group daycare, early pre-school, full-time kindergarten and regular public school education. My work and passion for children’s learning and well-being is inspired by the continuum concept, nurturing empathy through NVC, unschooling, life-long-learning, child-led learning, the work of Gordon Neufeld, John Holt, Maria Montessori, Waldorf education, and many more…
I have been involved in the lives of children, either as a baby-sitter, nanny or teacher for many years, taught ESL to folks from many cultures of all ages for over 15, and lived and worked in three countries. I am fascinated by the roles educational, family, and societal values play in raising our children.
My education in Communications, with a specialization in film editing, did not turn out as I expected, with me becoming a documentary film-maker or journalist, but my desire for telling stories that change the way we think about life has not diminished since then. I am pleased to be here living, learning and loving being a mother to a boy, AND WRITING ABOUT IT!
My hope is that in writing on rasingaboy, I will be able to share with many some of my learning, musings, observations and doubts, and ignite passion and dialogue in others.
signing out for now,